Sep
15
2009
What Do You Think Of People Who Have Their Kids Looking Like The Opposite Gender?
Posted by Blogmaster in Earings, tags: Gender, Kids, Like, Looking, Opposite, People, Their, ThinkI think it is wrong. Give your kids their identity! Once I commented on a cute little girl and the mom was all “It’s a boy” I never would have known with the long hair in a ponytail, non descript clothes, and earings.
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It’s wrong and they shouldn’t do that. If you have a girl make the child look like a girl and so forth…
These parents have a problem (well, several). Most notably is that they seem to want people to be confused and say the wrong thing to them, simply so that they can be confrontational with them. That they use their innocent children in order to get their jollies this way is sick. My sister did the same thing with her son.
Edit: She also named him “Geoffrey”, and when stating his name to people who needed to write it on some form she wouldn’t tell them that it was with a “G”, just so that she could see if they would write it with a “J’ so she could then yell at them about it.
its just individuality.
earings—could have been part of culture or tradition
non descriptive clothing- mother or fater may be feminist.
long hair – ever heard of locks of love
Every ten years or so, the trend to let a boy’s hair grow to his waist comes back again. Truly, it’s hard to tell with some little boys (Celine Dion’s son, for example) whether they are male or female. It’s a trend and it will go back to short hair for boys again…because the ones with the long hair, when they grow up enough…will tell their parents to PLEASE cut it…it’s just embarrasing to be called a girl so often!
Personally I think it’s weird. My boys will never have long hair as long as they’re under my roof & I think it’s sick to let a 5 or 6 year old boy get his ears peirced. I don’t care what’s “in”.
I think it should be up to the kid how they look, as much as possible, whether that’s androgynous or typical for their gender. Kids have so much of their lives controlled (when and what they can eat, where they can go, what activities they can do, how they keep their room, which friends they can spend time with etc…) so why not give them a little breathing room where appearance is concerned?
You seem to be assuming that the parents imposed this look on the kid, but maybe the way he dresses expresses HIS identity, not the identity you think he should have or something his parents imposed on him. Even little kids have some definite ideas about the way they want to look; I wouldn’t have chosen the pink princess theme for my 5 yr old’s wardrobe, but that is what she likes and she gets upset if you try to get her in jeans to go to the playground so… pink dresses it is. If that boy wanted long hair and earrings…why not? What does it hurt? Hopefully that little boy’s parents would get him a haircut if he decided he wanted one.
It all depends on what each person believes is their cultural gender identity. My nephews have very long hair usually put into a braid. They have always had the option of cutting their hair, and they choose not to. It is an Indian tradition for males to have long hair. What matters is that children are healthy, loved and well taken care of.
i like the fact that people let their kids decide what path they want to take..but if things go to extremes and what-not…then someone should stop it
Situations differ. You don’t know what’s going on with the child. I saw a program on cross gender children — very young children like 3, 4, or 5 years old and their identity was clearly opposite of the physical gender.
It’s complicated.