What kind of girl is your ideal mate? It’s amazing that most men do not stop and think about this. It may be because most guys simply take what they can get when it comes to women. The good thing is, your learning the kind of game that will create options for you, a lot of options, so you better take a moment and think about your ideal women. You can go as far as writing down a brief description, just to clarify and drive the point home. Although some of us prefer blonde girls or petite girls or whatever, I suggest writing down particular personality traits like intelligence, adventurous spirit, etc. You never know, while your looking for your hot petite blonde you come across a gorgeous brunette that embodies everything you truly you want.
This exercise is important because it encourages you to have standards. Having standards is an important belief that under lays all your interactions with women. You should have standards and never put up with second-class behavior from women.
The other essential element of “inner game” you have to get together is yourself!
Ask yourself this question: “If I were the type of women who I would like to attract, what would make me want to be with me?” Then do as much as you can to improve yourself. You don’t have to be a men’s health cover model, but get yourself in reasonably good shape. You don’t have to drop a fortune on Gucci loafers, but develop your personal sense of style and dress well. Be well groomed, your haircut, neck and face shaven, teeth, breath, etc. This should be a point of personal pride, taking care of yourself doesn’t mean turning into a “metrosexual” and having more beauty products than a women. What it does mean is not leaving the house looking like a caveman! Women notice details men will often let slide! So don’t let it slide!
When you take care of yourself, you look better and feel more confident. This enhances your self-image.
Beyond these details you should take note of three major aspects of your life. This could be your profession, your favorite activity or hobby, anything that you identify strongly with. Write them down and learn how to talk about them in an interesting way. When asked what you do for work, don’t give your job title. Instead, tell them what you do in a compelling way! Another short list worth writing down is at least three personality traits you like about yourself. This could be intelligence, thoughtfulness, adventurous, etc. Then think about at least three experiences in your life that illustrates these characteristics. These experiences will make good stories to tell that will allow you to show these sides of yourself!
Inner game is often over looked for the immediately applicable tactics of outer game! If you learn proper technique and your words still fall on deaf ears, the missing link is your self-image, attitude, and confidence that are the underlying basis for anything you do outwardly when interacting with women! I highly suggest developing yourself in your personal goals and inner game concerning women and dating as much as your outer game!
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